The Best Couples’ Sex Toys for Mutual Masturbation (Annette’s Tested Guide)

The Practice Most Couples Are Missing — And the Toys That Make It Better

Mutual masturbation is the most underrated practice in couples’ sex lives.

Not because it’s too advanced. Because nobody’s told you how to do it — or what to bring into the bedroom with you.

Here’s what it actually is: both of you touching yourselves at the same time. Watching each other. Learning each other. No pressure to deliver an orgasm. No performance. Just two people showing up and showing each other exactly how their bodies work.

When you add the right toys, it gets even better. Your partner sees the setting, the pressure, the angle that actually works on your body. They stop guessing. You stop faking. And your partnered sex changes permanently because now they know.

These are the best couples sex toys I use, test, and recommend for mutual self-pleasure. Everything on this list earns its place because it does something specific — for you, for your partner, or for both of you at the same time.

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THE HERO TOY: Womanizer Premium 2

Best for: Showing your partner exactly how clitoral stimulation works on your body

If there’s one toy to pull out during mutual masturbation, it’s this one.

The Womanizer Premium 2 uses Pleasure Air Technology — not vibration, and it doesn’t even always require direct contact; instead, it provides gentle air pulses that stimulate the clitoris without touching it. It’s the toy that makes women come in under two minutes and has them wondering why it took this long to find it.

Here’s why it’s the perfect mutual masturbation toy: when your partner watches you use it, they understand for the first time not only where the clitoris is but all of the ways it can be pleasured, including what non-contact clitoral stimulation actually looks and sounds like. They hear the sounds you make at each of the 14 intensity levels. They learn that “lighter” isn’t just a preference — it’s physiology.

And the next time they go down on you or touch you with their hand, they’re not guessing at pressure anymore.

What makes it worth it:

• 14 intensity levels — from barely-there to intense
• Autopilot mode that randomly changes intensity so your body can’t adapt (this one surprises people every time)
• Smart Silence technology so it only activates when touching skin — which means zero awkward buzzing when you pick it up
• Two interchangeable head sizes for different anatomy
• Waterproof, rechargeable, 4-hour battery life
• 5-year warranty

Featured in Katy Perry’s “Woman’s World” video for a reason. This is the Prada of sex toys and it earns the title.

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FOR PARTNERS: FirmTech TechRing

Best for: Keeping him present and hard during slow, mutual play

Mutual masturbation tends to involve slower, more deliberate touch, which is exactly when a lot of men start losing their erection. Not because they’re not turned on. Because the physiology of slow arousal works differently than the pounding rhythm that maintains blood flow.

The TechRing solves that. It’s a cock ring designed by urologists to maintain erection quality by supporting blood flow — not through restriction, but through gentle, targeted compression that keeps him full and firm through the whole experience.

I recommend it for mutual masturbation specifically because it removes the pressure on him to maintain his erection while he’s watching you, touching you, or just being present. He stays hard. You stay focused on your own pleasure. Nobody breaks the moment.

The TechRing also tracks erectile health data over time — because erections are a vital sign, and this is one of the few products that treats them that way.

What makes it worth it:

• Medical-grade design developed by urologists
• Comfortable, body-safe materials
• Tracks erection quality over time via the app
• Pairs with the RingMate clitoral attachment (see below)

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FOR BOTH: FirmTech RingMate

Best for: Hands-free clitoral stimulation during mutual play or penetrative sex

The RingMate is a vibrating clitoral attachment that pairs with the TechRing. While he wears the ring, the RingMate vibrates against your clitoris during sex — meaning both people are receiving stimulation at the same time without anyone having to use their hands.

In the context of mutual masturbation, the RingMate is useful in a different way: it detatches and works as a finger vibe so you can use it for external clitoral stimulation. Then if you want you can add your fingers from your other hand on your G-spot. Him watching all of it and learning.

That’s how you introduce blended orgasms into your practice together.

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FOR HER SOLO: Honey Play Box VIBROSA

Best for: Internal stimulation and G, U, and A-spot exploration during mutual play

I reviewed this one personally and it earned a permanent spot in my kit.

The VIBROSA is Honey Play Box’s dual-motor app-controlled egg vibrator, designed to hit the G-spot, U-spot, and A-spot in combination. If you’ve been following my 365 Days of Orgasms series, you know exactly what those spots are and why stimulating them together creates the kind of orgasm most women have never experienced.

For mutual masturbation, it’s ideal because:

1. it’s discreet and compact, so using it during mutual play doesn’t feel clinical or complicated.
2. the app control means your partner can actually take over the vibration patterns from their phone while you’re both touching yourselves. You’re still in charge of the position. They’re in charge of the intensity. That’s a real transfer of control that feels nothing like performance.
3. it stimulates the spots I teach in 365 Days of Orgasms internally, so if your partner has watched those tutorials, they can see in real time what A-spot stimulation feels like for you — and then try to replicate it with their fingers.

What makes it worth it:

• Dual motors for G, U, and A-spot stimulation simultaneously
• App-controlled with 10+ vibration patterns, voice commands, and music sync
• Whisper quiet (under 50 dB)
• Body-safe silicone, IPX7 waterproof
• Long-distance play capability via app

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FOR G-SPOT EXPLORATION: We-Vibe Rave 2

Best for: Learning G-spot stimulation and showing your partner exactly what works

If you’ve been following my 365 Days of Orgasms series, you know the G-spot is one of the most misunderstood spots on the body. Most people know it exists. Almost nobody has been taught how to actually stimulate it effectively.

The Rave 2 is designed specifically for that. Its twisted asymmetrical shape targets the G-spot directly, and the adjustable hinge means you can dial in the exact angle that works on your specific body. Two motors hit both the G-spot and vaginal opening simultaneously — which is the dual stimulation that most often produces the deep, full-body orgasms most women have never experienced.

For mutual masturbation it’s ideal because it does the internal work while you or your partner can add clitoral stimulation externally. You’re using it during mutual play, your partner is watching the angle you use, the speed, the pressure. They’re learning your G-spot firsthand.

Then you put your hand on theirs and teach them to replicate it. That’s the 365 Days practice brought into partnered play.

What makes it worth it:

• Twisted shape engineered to find and stay on the G-spot
• Dual motors targeting G-spot and vaginal opening simultaneously
• Adjustable hinge for different anatomy
• App-controlled by either partner from their phone
• 10 vibration modes, IPX7 waterproof, rechargeable
• 2-year warranty

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FOR WEARABLE PLAY: We-Vibe Jive 2

Best for: Hands-free G-spot stimulation during mutual play — or handing control to your partner

The Jive 2 is a wearable egg vibrator that targets the G-spot internally while you go about your life — or while you’re in the middle of mutual play.

Here’s why it earns a spot in this guide: it’s the toy that most naturally hands control to your partner. You insert it and focus on your own external touch. They pick up the app or remote and control the internal vibration. Suddenly you’re both contributing to your pleasure at the same time — you from the outside, them from their phone.

That’s not performance. That’s collaboration. And it teaches both of you something about how internal and external stimulation interact on your body in real time.

The adjustable hinge means it fits different anatomy without discomfort, and it runs whisper quiet — so you’re not fighting noise during the most intimate part of the practice.

What makes it worth it:

• Wearable egg shape that stays put during play
• Adjustable hinge for different body shapes
• App and remote control — your partner controls it from their phone
• 10+ intensity levels
• Whisper quiet, IPX7 waterproof, 4-hour battery life
• Body-safe silicone, BPA and phthalate free

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How to Use These Toys During Mutual Masturbation

A few principles that make all of these work better together:

Show, don’t tell. Use the toy the way you’d use it alone. Don’t narrate. Don’t perform. Your partner learns more from watching you actually come than from any explanation you could give them.

Let your partner hold the remote. App-controlled toys are designed for exactly this. You handle position and focus on sensation. They handle intensity. That handoff builds trust, communication, and the kind of play that feels collaborative instead of performative.

Try the hand-over-hand technique. While you’re using a toy on yourself, have your partner place their hand gently on yours — not to take over, just to feel the pressure you’re applying, the speed, the angle. That tactile information is something they can never get from watching alone.

Tie in the 365 Days series. Every toy on this list pairs with specific tutorials from my 365 Days of Orgasms series. Learning the A-spot? Use the VIBROSA and let your partner watch. Exploring blended orgasms? Use the Womanizer Premium 2 externally while the We-Vibe Rave handles the inside. The tutorials teach the anatomy. The toys and mutual play teach it on your specific body.

Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off Womanizer and We-Vibe products, and ANNETTE15 for 15% off FirmTech and Honey Play Box.