7 Sex Toys I Reach For No Matter Who’s in My Bed

7 Best Inclusive Sex Toys for Every Body: A Queer Sex Educator’s Picks

I’m bisexual. And my sexuality is one of the biggest reasons I’m good at my job.

I’ve received pleasure from people of all genders. I’ve given pleasure to people of all genders. When I teach my listeners how to read a partner’s body, how to use a toy, how to make someone come — I’m drawing on lived experience from every side of the bed.

That combination — lived experience plus a decade of education — is what queerness gave me. And these seven toys are the ones that show up in my own bed, in my coaching, and in the conversations I have with people who want better sex regardless of who they’re having it with.

Every toy on this list works on every body. That’s not a marketing claim. It’s a design reality. Inclusive toys aren’t niche products — they’re better products. Built to work across more anatomy, more positions, more partnerships. Which means they work harder and more powerfully on your body too.

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1. We-Vibe Touch X — The Desert Island Toy

If I got stranded somewhere with one toy from my collection, this is the one I’d hope I grabbed on the way out the door.

The Touch X is a lay-on external vibrator that fits in your palm. Deep, rumbly vibration that gets into the tissue instead of skating on the surface. Eight modes. Curved head that conforms to whatever body part you press it against. Waterproof. Whisper-quiet.

Why it’s on this list. The Touch X doesn’t care what your anatomy is. I’ve used it on a clitoris and watched someone come undone. I’ve used it on a penis and watched the same thing happen. It’s beautiful on nipples, against a perineum, through clothing for slow tease.

But my favorite use: between two bodies during penetration. That compact flat shape fits comfortably between you and your partner, delivering external stimulation while the vibration radiates for both of you. Most external vibrators can’t do that. The Touch X was practically built for it.

Best for: Everyone. Solo, partnered, any anatomy, any configuration. The one toy that does everything.

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2. We-Vibe Temp — The Sensation You Haven’t Felt Yet

This one is genuinely new. The Temp is We-Vibe’s first vibrator with built-in temperature play.

It delivers powerful rumbly vibration across three intensities and three patterns. But with a press of a button, you heat it up or cool it down — and that thermal layer changes the entire experience.

Warm mode against sensitive tissue is enveloping and luxurious. Cold is sharp and electrifying. Switch between them and the contrast itself becomes the stimulation. The temperature change happens fast.

Why it’s on this list. Every body responds to thermal contrast. That’s why temperature play has been part of kink culture forever.

Warm against her inner thigh during buildup. Cold against a nipple. Warm across a chest during a slow scene. Cold somewhere your partner didn’t expect it. Blindfold someone, alternate warm and cold across their skin, and watch their entire nervous system pay attention.

For solo play, experiment with how warmth versus cold changes your arousal pattern. Some people climb faster with cold. Some melt into warmth. Knowing which one you are is information about yourself worth having.

Best for: Sensation seekers. Kink-curious explorers. Anyone whose toy collection is missing something they can feel differently.

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3. We-Vibe Verge 2 — The Perineum Stimulator That Does Triple Duty

The Verge 2 is a vibrating perineum stimulator worn at the base of the penis and testicles. It delivers rumbly vibration to three pleasure zones simultaneously: penis, testicles, and perineum.

That perineum stimulation is the underrated star. For anyone who hasn’t explored this area — it’s a powerhouse. The vibration translates through the tissue to the prostate from the outside. Nothing goes in. People who’ve never used a toy here often have no idea how much pleasure lives in that spot.

The stretchy design adapts comfortably and goes on and off easily.

Why it’s on this list. I’ve given pleasure to a partner wearing the Verge 2 and watched the perineum stimulation alone take them somewhere they hadn’t been. And I’ve been the receiving partner during penetration with someone wearing one — the vibration translates beautifully to whoever’s on the other side.

For inclusive play: gorgeous for two penises sharing sensation. For solo play with serious perineum focus. For any partnered penetration where both bodies want to feel the vibration.

App-controllable through the We-Vibe app — which makes it excellent for hands-free play, long-distance play, and power dynamics.

Cock rings have come a long way. This is what they’re supposed to do.

Best for: Penis owners who want perineum stimulation without internal play. Couples who want both partners to feel vibration during penetration.

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4. Womanizer Vibe — The Silent Game-Changer

The Vibe is doing something I haven’t seen another brand pull off. It’s a genuinely noiseless vibrator.

Womanizer calls it Ultra Wave vibration — a linear motor that creates low-frequency rumble layered with fine harmonic resonances. Deeper, smoother, and more textured than standard vibration. And it does it without making a sound your neighbors can hear.

Ten intensity levels. Three autopilot modes that cycle through preset rhythms. Pleasure edges on the ergonomic shape let you switch between broad full-coverage stimulation and targeted pinpoint focus by rotating slightly.

Why it’s on this list. This toy is genuinely inclusive. It works beautifully on a clitoris, a penis, a perineum, nipples, inner thighs — anywhere that responds to deep harmonic vibration.

I reach for it during partnered penetration. The curved shape fits between two bodies — during strap-on sex, finger penetration, scissoring with a vibe held between you, or any configuration where you want shared external vibration without a loud motor pulling you out of the moment.

The autopilot modes are a real win for edging and hands-free exploration. Let the toy take you somewhere instead of driving it yourself.

Best for: Shared spaces where noise matters. Partnered play across all configurations. Anyone who’s tired of buzzy surface vibration.

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5. Womanizer Enhance — When You Want Both at Once

The Enhance combines Womanizer’s Pleasure Air suction technology with We-Vibe’s deep rumbly vibration in one device.

Ten air intensity levels. Ten vibration levels. Ten vibration patterns. All individually controllable. The math: over a thousand possible combinations.

Run suction and vibration simultaneously, separately, or layered. The broader stimulator head fits more anatomy than standard suction toys — which matters for bodies of different sizes and shapes.

Why it’s on this list. If you’ve used Womanizer, you know Pleasure Air doesn’t numb you out. If you’ve used We-Vibe, you know the rumble. The Enhance runs both at once.

For solo play, learn what suction does versus vibration, then start layering. The combinations are genuinely different experiences from one another. For partnered play, hand it over and let your partner choose the chaos. Layered sensation controlled by someone else is one of the more interesting forms of surrender I know of.

Works on clitoral anatomy, penis tips, and any body part where you want suction plus vibration at the same time.

Best for: Experienced toy users who want range. Solo explorers. Anyone curious about what suction + vibration feels like together.

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6. We-Vibe Wand 2 — The Queer Classic, Reinvented

Wands are queer culture. I will die on that hill.

The wand vibrator has been a staple of lesbian, sapphic, and broader queer sexuality for decades. The reason is simple: it doesn’t care what your anatomy is, what your partner’s anatomy is, or what kind of sex you’re having. It delivers serious, body-shaking vibration wherever you point it.

The Wand 2 is the modern premium version. Flexible neck for any angle. Ten intensities and multiple patterns with serious depth. Waterproof. Built like an heirloom.

Why it’s on this list. As a receiving partner, the wand against your clitoris while your partner is inside you is a foundational queer sex experience — and it translates beautifully to any partnership. As the giving partner, hold it against your partner’s body while you do other things with your hands, your mouth, your weight. It frees up your other tools.

Works beautifully between two vulvas. Works through clothing for teasing, edging, and scenes where the toy does the work while you stay in a power dynamic.

App-controllable for long-distance play. Or for handing the controls to someone across the room while you pretend nothing is happening.

Best for: Anyone. This is the toy that earns the word “classic” because it genuinely works for everyone in every situation.

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7. We-Vibe Rave 2 — The G-Spot Toy That Maps What You Didn’t Know Was There

The Rave 2 has a curved, asymmetrically twisted shaft with what We-Vibe calls a pleasure edge. That twist means it doesn’t just thrust — it rotates against different angles of internal tissue as you move it.

Two motors. Ten-plus vibration modes. Ten intensities. The handle gives you real control over the motion.

Why it’s on this list. This is one of the best G-spot vibrators I’ve reviewed. The specific curve and twisting motion targets the G-spot at multiple angles. For anyone with a vagina who wants to actually learn their internal landscape, the Rave 2 is a mapping tool as much as a pleasure tool.

Different angles reveal different spots. Hand it to your partner and let them experiment. There’s something deeply intimate about letting someone else find the angle that makes your body do something neither of you expected.

The long-handled shape and rumbly vibration also work for external perineum stimulation. And for couples who want a versatile internal toy that one partner can run while the other does something else entirely.

Best for: Anyone who wants to know their own anatomy better. Partners who want to explore internal stimulation together. G-spot seekers who’ve been underwhelmed by straight-shaft toys.

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Why These Seven

My sexuality didn’t make my coaching career complicated. It made it possible.

Being able to speak from lived experience on every side of the bed — as a receiver, as a giver, with every gender and every dynamic — combined with the education and research I’ve poured into this work, is the reason my advice actually works.

These seven toys are part of how I do that work. They’re inclusive because they were built that way. They work on every body because every body deserves to feel good.

And inclusive design isn’t charity. It’s better engineering. Toys built to work across more anatomy, more configurations, and more kinds of pleasure are simply better toys. Period.

Try them. Let me know how it goes.

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